Online grief counselling – room for a loss that changed everything

It's love that has lost its address — and it deserves room, not a deadline.

Someone is gone — and the world keeps moving as if nothing happened. People around you slowly return to normal; you're expected to “be doing better by now”. But grief doesn't read calendars. Whether your loss is weeks or years old, whether it was a person, a pregnancy, a friendship or a future you had planned: if it shaped you, it deserves space. I offer grief counselling online, in English — gentle, unhurried, at your pace.

Grief has no schedule – and no single face

Sadness is only one of its colours. Grief can look like anger — at the world, at doctors, at the person who left. Like guilt: the things said and unsaid. Like numbness, when feelings switch off entirely. Like relief, after a long illness — followed by guilt about the relief. All of it belongs. In grief counselling nothing you feel is wrong; we make room for what is actually there, not for what a textbook says should be.

The grief nobody sees. Some losses don't get flowers and casseroles: a miscarriage, an estranged parent, a beloved animal, a divorce in the family, a friendship that ended, a home country left behind. This quiet, unacknowledged grief is real grief — and it often needs support most, precisely because the world doesn't recognise it.

Grieving far from home – when you couldn't be there

This one is close to my heart, because I meet it so often in my work with internationals: the phone call that changes everything, the scramble for flights, the funeral over a video link — or missed entirely. Grieving in a country where nobody knew the person you lost is a particular kind of loneliness: there are no shared memories around you, no one to say “she would have loved this”.

If this is your situation, you don't have to explain the weight of it to me. More about my work with internationals: therapy for expats.

How I work with grief – the Gestalt way

Grief work in Gestalt therapy is careful, embodied and surprisingly alive. We give the loss a place instead of a lid: what remains unsaid can still be said — Gestalt has powerful, gentle ways of finishing unfinished conversations with someone who is no longer here. We listen to the body, where grief physically lives: the heavy chest, the exhaustion, the tears that won't come or won't stop.

And we take your pace seriously: grief work is not about “letting go” on command — it's about finding a way to carry the love differently, so life can grow around the loss. I won't rush you. Nobody should. Between sessions there is nothing you have to perform or practise — grief works in its own time, and some of the most important steps happen quietly, days after we spoke.

When grief support makes sense

Grief counselling does not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. If grief has turned into deep depression or you have thoughts of harming yourself, please reach out now: 112 (EU) or your local crisis line.