Breakup & divorce therapy online – when a shared life ends

It's losing a planned life — and often a piece of who you were.

Maybe it was your decision, maybe theirs, maybe you both knew for a while. And still: the pain comes in waves, the flat is too quiet, the phone too silent, the future suddenly blank. Heartbreak is not weakness and not drama — it's the natural response to a real loss. I work online, in English, and I'll walk with you through it: not around the pain, but through it — which is the only way it actually ends.

Why time alone doesn't heal it

“Time heals” is only half true: time helps — if something is allowed to happen inside it. In my Gestalt work, everything that belongs to a breakup gets its place, including the feelings that rarely get daylight: grief and anger, relief and guilt, longing — sometimes all on the same day.

We work in the here and now and with the body, because heartbreak is physical: the pressure in the chest, the lump in the throat, the restlessness at 2 a.m. And we look at what's still open — unsaid sentences, unfinished inner conversations. Gestalt therapy has powerful ways of closing unfinished business: so you don't spend years carrying an inner suitcase that never got packed.

Breaking up abroad – heartbreak without a safety net

This is where many of my clients live: the breakup happens far from home. The friends who would show up with wine and tissues are a thousand kilometres away. The people you know locally were “your” friends as a couple. Sometimes the visa, the flat or the whole decision to move hung on the relationship — so you're not just grieving a person, you're renegotiating a country. If that's you: this is exactly what my practice is built for — online, in your language, wherever you are. More: therapy for expats.

Divorce – staying on your feet through the marathon

Divorce adds a marathon of paperwork, decisions and role changes — while everything inside is shaking. Counselling doesn't replace legal advice, but it gives you back the ground to decide from: Who am I now, without this “we”? What do I take from this relationship, what do I leave there? Especially when children are involved, a stable inner stance helps more than any guidebook. And if you're still together and fighting for the relationship — couples therapy is the better frame, and I offer that too.

Three honest things you can do right now

Allow the waves. Heartbreak isn't linear — a good day proves nothing, and neither does a black one. Both belong.

Contain the rumination, not the feeling. A fixed “grieving slot” each day — twenty minutes, with an end — gives the pain room without letting it govern the whole day. Feelings are always allowed; the mental replay loop needs a frame.

Anchor in the body. Walking, warm water, breathing out longer than in: the body carries you through what the mind can't yet sort. And when these aren't enough on their own — that's exactly what support is for.

When support makes sense

Therapy does not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. In an acute crisis, call 112 (EU) or your local crisis line.